Where To Turn For Marriage Help
Has your spouse said that the two of you have no future?
You can save your marriage even if
- your spouse says “I dont love you anymore”
- your spouse says “There’s someone else”
- your spouse says “I want a divorce”
- your spouse doesnt want to
Saving The Marriage Is A 4 Step Process
You must
- gain control over your own emotions, which will be running wild
- decide if the marriage is worth saving
- seek the advice of a professional, who has a proven record of success in saving marriages
- act on the advice of the professional
Gaining Control Of Your Own Emotions
To suddenly hear the words “I dont love you anymore”, from your spouse, can feel like a knife plunging through your heart. You can feel that your whole life is crumbling before you.
Your emotions will run out of control and will include devastation, worry, fear, embarrassment, loneliness, hopelessness and anger.
Your thoughts will run wild with thoughts like
- “I cant believe that He/she has done this to me.
- “I dont want to be alone”
- How will the kids react?”
- “What will happen financially?”
- “What will friends and family think?”
These reactions are quite normal and expected. But, you must gain control over them to save the marriage – and the sooner the better.
Decide If You Really Want To Save The Marriage
It can happen, after the emotions have subsided, that you decide that it is best to end the marriage This leads to one course of actions.
However, if you decide that you still love your spouse and you believe in your marriage vows of “for better or for worse” and “til death do us part”, you must resolve to do everything in your power to save the marriage.
The most important thing for you to do, to save your marriage, is to find a marriage counsellor who has a good record in helping couples solve marriage problems. Then you must follow the advice given. At the same time, you must avoid behavior that will worsen the relationship with your spouse.
A word of caution: do not seek or take advice from family and friends. This advice will be well intended. But they lack professional expertise and experience in these matters. What they suggest, if followed, may actually damage your relationship further.
Seek A Marriage Counsellor Who Has A Good Track Record Of Success
The divorce rate is rising. Approximately 50% of marriages end in divorce. This stat says much about the marriage counselling professionals. And, what it says is not good.
Traditional marriage counselling techniques produces a 20% success rate. Would you want to put the future of your marriage in the hands of such a marriage counsellor?
The good news is that there are marriage counsellors who achieve a much higher success rate than that. They use different techniques that achieve proven results. That is what you want.
Take Advice That Works And Follow It
Speed is essential. The sooner you get the advice and the sooner you act on that advice, the more likely it is that you will have success.
The biggest mistake people make, in the midst of a marital crisis, is to wait too long before taking the actions that will save the marriage
What Are Your Chances For Success?
It depends on 2 things:
- how strong is your desire to save your marriage?
- how committed are you to following the professional advice of a counsellor with a proven record of success
With these two things in place, you have what it takes to solve your marriage problems.
You have a good chance of success, even if your spouse doesn’t want to save the marriage, at this time.
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