Faulty Marriage Habits Are Forever
Is your marriage suffering? I discovered that it is possible to find contentment every day. Despite the length of your marriage you have the power to wear your marriage mindset daily.
How long is your mental list of all things she does wrong. What does she do that really ticks you off? How many days have you lost to anger and resentment over your spouse’s bad moves? How important are those teapot tempests if you thought this was your last day with her?
I can count on her to take an umbrella to work because the news says it might rain in the afternoon. I can also count on her to leave the top down on our eddie bauer convertible that same day. The umbrella is usually in the backseat.
I have asked her a million times to hang the wet towels up in the bathroom so they will dry. Please don’t leave the toothbrush in the shower and remove the baby bath toys after this kids are bathed. When I fall over in the shower the only thing to save my head will be when it hits the wet wadded towel.
I know that she gives away useful items without telling me. She gave my home space heaters to the local senior center. She donated my workshop tv to an assisted living center. My stuff.
I was hotter than my garage the night she stayed out and did not check in with me. My frustration and anger grew as time went by. At a certain point those feelings gave way to worry. No one knew where she was and by the time I heard the front door open my heart ached. That night my list was no longer important.
The relief I felt made me want to kick myself for making mountains out of molehills. Would any of my gripes mean anything compared to her absence? These days it’s a fun scavenger hunt to find my missing stuff. Washing the car is not as important as hearing it pull into the driveway. When I kick the bucket I won’t car if toys fall out. I will be grateful that I shared a life with someone completely unique to me.
I inventory her behaviors in a positive way now. Her actions are no longer triggers to fights over faults. They are reminders that our partnership prospers because we value family over frustration. Our marriage thrives because we appreciate all that the other offers. I am thankful for every one of her habits that makes her uniquely mine.
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